Emily’s Life List

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  • Limit Facebook. Limit Pinterest. (Both of those sites make you have unrealistic expectations about life.)
  • You can’t make everyone like you, approve of you or support you. And it shouldn’t matter, unless you’re in politics.
  • Stop trying to be perfect. It’s never going to happen, sorry.
  • Life isn’t a race and it’s not a competition, And yet so many people create it that way – they either compete against others or themselves, Stop it.
  • Look at how you designate you time. What can you make less stressful? Is there something that stresses you that can be split with someone else to help ease the load?
  • One hour a day, you do something for you. Something that doesn’t require talking to people or any kind of serious interaction. Hour at Starbucks reading. Hour watching Netflix and crocheting. Hour of a bubble bath and wine. Whatever makes you feel better, do it.
  • Stop trying to live up to other people’s expectations. It’s not going to happen.
  • You don’t have to always love yourself... but you always have to be honest to yourself.
  • Get over yourself. You’re never going to be all you want to be. Everyone imagines that they can take on everything they want in life, that they are invincible and have all the time in the world.
  • Be realistic. No one is going to meet every goal they set, no one is going to get to tick off everything on their bucket list. Make sure you’re doing the things you really want, not the things you think are expected of you to do.
  • Set priorities and limitations. You need to decide what shit is worth collecting and what you need to leave floating. No one has a big enough net to collect it all.
  • Learn to let things go. Letting go is like pulling rotten teeth. Worth it because your mouth will no longer hurt, but shitty to go through.
  • Get the hell off of autopilot. Don’t blink and miss your life, because you’ve only got one. (Unless you’re Shirley MacLaine.)

While I am giving this advice, I would like to note that I’m not exactly a life guru. I have my own struggles in life, like everyone, and some of my suggestions are ones that I try to do, but then life gets in the way. That doesn’t mean I don’t believe that they can help or that they are relevant – it just means that at this particular point in my life, I’ve had to pick and choose what I fight for and what I let go.

My motto is simple: It’s okay to lose the little battles, just as long as you win the war.